So really we don’t all suck at leading projects. We do bring to the projects we lead our biases and blind spots and often they provide stumbling blocks.
I was reminded today that as a leader of a project that your first commitment is to the end goal of the project. To get there, sometimes you need to allow others to dictate how a task is accomplished and other times you need to “throw your project manager weight around” to take the straightest line from point a to point b.
The true trick is knowing when which one is called for. The distinction is often clouded by ego and fear which is the path to the dark side.